The people here are actually far far far more honest and open than on your 'normal' dating websites - and well - Because I am VERY VERY VERY Confident and Open - I want my partner to be able to mimic that - AT LEAST - and some - I want a guy who is GUY and not a namby pamby / wishy washy fella - so - PERFECT - or so i thought !!
UNTIL I WAS TOLD THAT BEMYDOM is linked with, well - what seems like 10's of other sites.
Anyway - I'm starting from the middle - as, well * shrugs * my last date was last night and - it did not quite go to plan - lol - STORY OF MY LIFE ! -
So Far i have been on about 10 Dates ( in 2 years ! ) - I am very very fussy - and even though i have - an average 150 messages every two days - and talk to well - what seems like half the male population - i delete most of them !!
- I'm looking for someone specific - and with ALL the dates i have had - I THOUGHT I HAD FOUND THEM - Until meeting ..... and well - last nights date was no exception - Guys tend to overlook - or delete, a certain factor about themselves which is crucial on the dating scene - ohhh dating BDSM style is not really any different - it's just USUALLY - What you see is what you get - Forthright BUT - pmsl - OBVIOUSLY my homing in skills are not as they used to be !!
OK - Last night - well - I had actually approached him - because - i do actually find this a good way - of getting what i want - I'd read and re-read his profile - it was middling in length, yet everything i look for - Articulate, Open, Funny, and Well Thought Out .... My first message - ( I don't calm down my personality or pretend to be something i'm not - i always text as if i am texting a friend ) went something like :
" OK - Now THAT is one cute profile picture - BUT IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT LOOKS - even though i can see your sexy - and i'm VERY sexy - so - MATCH MADE IN HEAVEN ALREADY ! - Your profile, Simple ( That is NOT meant to sound as though your a window licker ) yet Intelligible and Expressive and Funny - Funny is a must !! But - thing is, Would Dave like you? and Do you like Coffee ?? "
OK Dave is my Unicorn ( Unicorns and Abiland - Pinterest - If your interested ) and This USUALLY SORTS THE MEN FROM THE BOYS - My type - to WELL - NOT !
Omg, OK - well - I had spent the day keeping calm !! - ( Read up on my own invisible illness to understand ! ) - and had taken just an hour to get read which included a shower - makeup getting dressed ( which is a must ! ) and - i even straightened my hair !! Well - I'm sure this guy would intoxicated by it, Remember - In his OWN WORDS - " Friends have said i look like Charlie Sheen " and upon asking his Career choices he responded, quite matter of fact " I'm a pilot " AND proceeded to show photos of him in a spitfire cockpit with all the kit, sitting next to his ( what i THOUGHT ) was a co-pilot - I had no doubt - that tonight was going to be 'interesting' - Don't forget the www.bemydom.com please - This is very important ..... and Upon speaking on the telecommunicative device ( I now - after another 'date' won't meet unless we have spoken on the phone - he was and is Beautifully Spoken, Well Articulated, Rather sexy and Funny .. This is going to be a great evening -
I'll tell you now, I didn't expect him to hobble in with a walking stick, He didn't even have the decency to have an invisible illness and 'pretend' to be OK - Nope - He Hobbled, Quite alot, and IM NOT BOTHERED BY ILLNESS - OMG - I HAVE MY OWN - BUT - I think one thing a DOM should be able to do, is stand up unaided .... Ok...
Maybe harsh, but true, he was LOVELY, really chatty, friendly, confident and intelligent,
BUT A DOM HE WAS NOT, and being on bemydom is a bit of a giveaway I thought!!
5 hours - and ok - it was 5 hours worth of chat, but, he was very interesting, puts you at your ease, almost, ALMOST but not quite inspirational ( Yes - It takes one to know one !! ) about his illness, and his ex wife being a biatch, and the fact he had no friends until he met '*Jack' at The Priory - 'Jack' is Gay - Lives in *Cambridge and is his Confidant, his quarter-back ( ohh maybe that's not a good Synonym considering his illness ) his companion / his bosom buddy ( *Names and places have been changed for privacy purposes ) -Omg, he was rather effeminate and kept going on about his best friend who was gay and they had discussed, AT LENGTH, why he was getting the wrong women, His job AT THE GOLF COURSE AS LAWN MANAGER - and his passion - FLYING - and although he had done quite a few lessons through a disabled people scheme - A PILOT HE WAS NOT .... OH - and he DID NOT LOOK LIKE CHARLIE SHEEN OR EVEN MARTIN SHEEN NOT EVEN MR SHEEN ..... He was a nice guy - BUT I DON'T WANT NICE - I DON'T WANT POLISHED ( Ha - Please !! THAT WAS GOOOOD ! ) I WANT SOMEONE WHO HAS THE INTELLIGENCE AND CONFIDENCE TO TAKE ME ON !!! - Ohhh Don't be rude !!
I psycho analysed, with him, and explained why people would be lovely on dates n then block him, and he told me that the Hairdresser and 'Jack' had told him the same thing - I tried telling him, on more than one, two .... eight nine times, That he was too 'nice' too 'sweet' - but he was so confident in his power of seduction that he would not listen. He KEPT INSISTING that he was a bad boy - and unrelenting in the fact that his capacity to induce appeal and temptation would have me falling over myself ( which i do quite readily anyway ) to get to his feet and please his every desire - Even me KICKING him out at 12 ( ohhhh we did have a very very very very good chat! ) was hysterical, I had to go along with the fact that he thought if he stayed I was going to rip his clothes off and drag him upstairs which i said I would regret because he was such a lovely guy, I didn't want him to get emotionally hurt. Then, it happened - He started biting his lip ! ...He kept looking at me and biting HIS lip ;) - I'm SURE the art of magnetism should have that senario, but the OTHER way around ?? Saying "See - You did not think I could make you feel like this - Your quite a naughty naughty young lady are you not ?" Did NOT enhance the situation - NOT WITH YOU MATE, NO - I WAS DOING NOTHING ........... But - apparently I was 'flirting with my eyes and begging him ' and at one point - MY BREATHING CHANGED - Yeah - I was having an asthma attack - Or Yawning - I WASN'T DOING ANYTHING MOTHER - I WASN'T !! Anyway - I helped him out off the chair - ( yes True ) and he said " omg Your really kicking me out - and it's 12pm " - to which my reply was - " yes - I TOLD you - when you first got here - That there was NO SPARK - and I DON'T just jump into bed with anyone " - He stood outside and I said - " Are you ok to get home ?" - he asked what i would suggest if he said no - and i replied that i was sure he would be very comfy in his car ..... Ohhhhhhh I know I shouldn't be nasty, But why say you are Dom, and be, well. not. Nothing to do with his disability, I'm not disablement racist, but the whole thing was a farce...... People seriously would not believe it, He was a lovely guy - ok he wasn't a Pilot, and he didn't look like Charlie Sheen, and his Pictures were ten years old - But he was funny and a great conversationalist - But - Just NOT on my wave - length, or rather he actually was - BUT - I didn't personally find him attractive TO ME, and he didn't quite have the right attributes for being in a relationship with ME, he would be a push over ( Oh stop it ) and i don't want a push over - i want someone to stand up too me !!
Anyways - I sent him a text when i got into bed - and asked him to text when he was home - Because - I was worried - I wanted to make sure he was ok - I then fell asleep - but woke to a message saying the Road had been closed - but he got home ok - nearly an hour later - But - well - thats ok ! - THEN I received a message at 6.30am - saying good morning and telling me what he was going to do with his day - and that he would take photos to document it - and then we would chat tonight - WELL - HAD TO PUT A HALT TO IT THERE AND THEN - Basically I sent a text saying
" I'm sorry - Your Too nice Hun - I really want someone more experienced and more assertive and dominant - and i do feel that - that is NOT you - I am very sorry for my bluntness, but it's better than leading you on, You are lovely - But - as i said last night - Lovely is NOT for me, without a doubt i KNOW you will get what you are looking for - if you just STOP looking " ......
I can't abide just dropping someone - and ruining what little self esteem the guy must have had because of past relationships, he did deserve the explaination - AGAIN - he did not deserve lies or Miscommunication, and well - thats not me anyways - anyways - BLUNT is one thing i do so well !!
So - there's last night antics - In a rather large nutshell .............. Back onto sites later - onto the next ... Lets hope Liars and the passive are away for the weekend !!
